"I’m going to mark you from the inside."
I’ll be the last person to tell you that sex has any inherent special meaning to me. In it’s most basic form, sex is an act. It’s an activity between two people; no different than going to dinner or playing a sport.
But it can become more.
I was in a poly relationship. We both slept with other people—at some points more than each other. But sex between us was always better. There were things others could do for her that I couldn’t. There were things I’d do with others that I didn’t with her. But ours was always better. Because it was us. The connection we shared went far beyond the physical. When I released inside her, I was marking her has mine. When her release poured over me, she was claiming me as her own.
The sex itself was nothing special. What was special was the meaning we gave it. The emotions we injected into the act that we never shared with anyone else.
For many, I believe this is what makes poly relationships difficult to understand. They make an inherent connection between sex and an emotional commitment. For some, this may be an impossible hurdle. But for those who can see past the social norm, the old (let’s face it) religious backbone of this belief, it’s easy to see the difference between the emotional connection and the physical act.